BIG Mmmmomma

A New One

2011-10-18T20:40:00.000+08:00

The old one finally gave up. I was taught from young to use the hand cranking powered one. Then the foot pedal powered one.

The bobbins used to be long. (Can anyone remember those days)

Then they went round and you fed the string counterclockwise.

Later they stayed round but now the string was fed clockwise.

Or was it the other way round.
Anyway this is my new toy.

Except that I accidentally pulled a part out which I ought not have done so and now it doesn't run so smoothly. Oops. I have to get it fixed. Simple I am sure.... but....

Changes

2011-10-16T23:35:00.000+08:00

The other day, I was told by this fine young man that I didn't look my age. Haha! No, he was not flattering me, nor was he out to win me over. A happily married young man that he was, he was stating what he felt was fact. Nice eh?

Except that he didn't know the full story. Amazing what a good set of clothes well worn can do! It hides a lot! And I mean a lot!

I honestly replied him that I felt my age, even if he thought I didn't look it. In particular, I felt it when the hot flushes came. And what are hot flushes I hear you ask? Check it out here. Simple diagrams which help explain.

Anyway, thankfully the hot flushes and other symptoms have ceased since I started on a herb....

But that's another story!

In Quick Succession

2011-10-15T20:43:00.000+08:00

It was all very short notice. First Arrow #1 came back from finishing his second year studies. Then he received an offer to complete his studies in the UK. Next thing you knew, he was at the airport and off!
Then Arrow #2 came back from being posted in Switzerland for his internship. He was home for 2 weeks. A good time indeed.
But the time flew by quick and he was off back to Singapore!
And now we are back to just one Arrow at home....

Memories....

2011-09-04T21:09:00.000+08:00

There I was, standing in front of the mirror. I was preparing to go out for dinner. I had my entire outfit picked out, down to the accessories. Hubby of course was ready to go anytime!

Then problem arose - I could not find my clutch bags - the black one, which was with my white one, and which was together with my cream one.

That cream one. It's special. Because it’s from Mom.

As a little girl, I would watch her get ready for dinner and I would wait not-so-patiently for the moment when she brought this special bag out. How I loved this bag. It came along with wisps of perfume caressing the nostrils, with makeup and special softness which enhanced a glow on Mom's face for the evening. I would wait for that chance when she would pass me the bag to "take care for her". Then I would gently, almost revererently, finger the beads, caress the workmanship, and admire the entire craftsmanship. Those were special moments.

It was a truly special moment when on one visit home my Mom handed this symbol-of-many-delightful-memories to me and told me it was mine. It's faded. A number of beads are missing. The faded cloth is showing in parts. But it was mine. As was all the memories. I am so, so thankful, even to today.

Yes, I found my bags, all three of them.

But the other two will never be as special as this one….

Thanks Mom

Where is She?

2011-09-02T12:42:00.000+08:00

Do you enjoy children visiting? I do. Even though my home is not a totally "child-proof" one! (Visitors beware!)

Recently, a delightful little one came by with her parents. She was cheerfully bubbly as usual despite being a little tired.

Watching her stirred up the little child in me. (Or was it the former Sunday School teacher? Whatever.)

I started tossing cushions at her. Amazingly, she sat there without fuss. (Or was she in shock?)

More and more the cushions flew towards her.

I started to chant with each toss, "Where is Tina?"

"Where is Tina?" and another pillow landed.

Till she was no longer visible and I had run out of cushions.
Then, giggling and kicking away, she shrugged off the entire pile!

And asked for more!

Needless to say, she wasn't keen to go home even though we went through umpteen rounds of this.

The last I heard, on the next trip into the car to go out, she insisted her parents take her to our place again...!

Did I mention I like children visiting?

I Like .... Not!

2011-08-30T21:42:00.002+08:00

It was supposed to be a treat.

Arrow #3 spotted it.

Seemed perfect for a humid hot day.

And after grocery shopping
Mango. Iced? Or so we thought.

But disappointing it was indeed. It didnt even satisfy our thirst.

Appearances can be so deceiving....

Dance!

2011-08-23T21:22:00.000+08:00

There's something liberating with dance. The wide swing of the arms, the graceful arcing of one's lower limbs, the tilt of the head, the angle of one's body, synchronized with others.... Visual delight but such freedom by the dancer.

Which is why when Arrow #3 wanted to dance in this event, we were all for it.
The 10th Anniversary of the church.

Where?

2011-06-23T00:07:00.002+08:00

Where did time go?

Is it half the year already?

What have I done?

What have I not done?

Suddenly, it is stock-take time.

And I fear to be found wanting.

Lord, where can I run?

Where can I hide?

If I were to go to the highest place, you are there.

The deepest gulley cannot shield me.

I fear to be found wanting.

Sense of Humour

2011-04-25T20:32:00.000+08:00

Some might find this event unsettling. Others might find it discouraging. Yet others, would be like me - find it amusing!

By the way, I dont dye my hair for camouflage or any reason! So I guess that's part of the reason.... Read on.... Haha!

Lady with a Special Touch

2011-02-01T22:32:00.002+08:00

My Mom.

She knits. She does patchwork. She can crochet. She's done macramé. Everyone in the family has a blanket made by her.

As a septuagenarian, you'd think she gives up on such things. But no, not her. In fact, she ventures into even more finite work.

Have a look. I kid you not.
Are these not the most exquisite handiwork? It's called tatting. Loops and knots and more loops and more knots. Add in a twist here and a tug there and voila!

Well, I might make it seem simple, but I am actually doing the craft a grave injustice. It's an amazing thing that she does - she makes them and gives them to me - so I can give them away. She makes more than one so I can give more than one away. It's a joy and a blessing.

Amazing woman, that she is.

What Every Parent Should Know

2011-01-20T17:26:00.000+08:00

So your child is signed up on a social networking site. You think it's ok to do so. After all, it's fun, and it's harmless. Why, even you yourself have an account.

So we think.

Watch this video...

Time Flies

2011-01-02T00:43:00.002+08:00

It's amazing how time flies. In a twinkling of an eye, Christmas is over. The New Year is fast approaching.
The entire year has gone by super fast.

I don't even have time to do a short writeup of thanksgiving Haha!

But am so glad that the whole family is back together. Here's a rare shot of us all.... together with my parents. It's been an incredibly full year. With much to thank God for......

She Remembers

2010-12-16T23:25:00.002+08:00

It was fun today.

Arrow #3 spoke up while in the car, on the way to lunch. She suddenly remembered parts of her time in the house where she was born and spent the first few years of her life.

The floor (parquet upstairs, tiles downstairs) - was it because she spent time crawling on them? She learned to crawl under the chairs there, chasing after her brother and the hamster!

The waiting at the bay window waving to me as I left for work. She would sit there for a while longer after I left.... sigh....

The wooden table where she drew chalk marks to play games on. The favourite game was a local one called chongkak. Hmmmm how come she's not that good with maths?

The dancing while her brothers played nutty songs on the piano and keyboard. That explains her love for dance!

The time one of her brothers had a birthday party and we dressed up to do the Good Samaritan and told the story. The part of being the robbers excited the over excited boys!

She loved her room, and I'm sure it's because she had a queen sized bed all to herself. Initially she didn't like the big bed so we covered half of it with stuffed toys and lots of dolls to keep her company.

Memories.... ahhhh. Nice. I am glad we created memories for the children. This was a precious short 15 minute drive time.

Super precious because her grandparents were in the car with us!

Plans

2010-12-13T19:39:00.003+08:00

Finally, after an entire year and more of unsynchronizable holidays and breaks, we might just have a week to ourselves. The family and my parents.

That means time together!

But of course, the children will want to link with their friends too. So the best thing would be for us to go off somewhere overnight and then leave them to their friends after that.

Making plans for this many of us is not going to be easy, but it has to be done. Memories have to be created, and planning has to be done.

But plan as we might, it is God Who will bring things to pass, so we need to pray and seek His will and way before we embark on anything else....

Which is what I am going to do as soon as I sign off here!

Countdown to Many

2010-12-06T21:34:00.001+08:00

Now that the Musical is over (see EADotCom, Metamor4osis, The Hinge for more info) the countdowns begin for other things!

Arrow #2 has exams but will be back before Christmas.

Arrow #1 has exams too but will also be back before Christmas.

Holidays to look forward to!

My parents are with me so we can enjoy three generations-wise.

The processing of hundreds of responses to the musical. May they be directed to the Lord!

Oh, and yes, early in the new year, we start meetings for the year....

Fun with Arrows

2010-11-10T21:07:00.000+08:00

Went out with my third Arrow and some of her friends to see a movie.

It was 3D. It was fun.
We thoroughly enjoyed the movie.

And we enjoyed the short time together.

More time with Arrows is good....

The Skin

2010-10-30T00:34:00.000+08:00

I didn't even realise that my regular skin was no longer there. It's kind of embarrassing really.
Then it took me a while to get the one I wanted back.

Now that it is, I do hope it stays a while before the necessary change takes place.... Change is good, but not when I am not prepared for it!

Malaysia has a lot of Prawns

2010-10-28T21:56:00.002+08:00

On Facebook, a friend of mine posted this exchange with her daughter.

Translations in blue and names have been changed to protect identity.

Disclaimer - you might not find it funny if you don't speak the lingo. But then again, never mind.....!

Mum : Lia, has your school taught you on Rukun Negara? (National Principles)

Lia stamped her feet to attention.

Lia : Yes, we have to stand very straight and repeat after teachers.

Mum : What have you learnt about it ?

Lia : Very hard to memorise but I remember Malaysia has many prawns !

Mum : Er ? Why ?

Lia : Kedaulatan Udang-udang! (The Rule of Prawns) It should be Kedaulatan UNdang UNdang which means the Rule of Law.

You can read more about it here.

Perimenopause

2010-10-21T09:18:00.002+08:00

Sometimes I scare myself.

Other times I think it's ok. Especially when I read articles like this which help to put my perspective right and assure me that I am doing ok. I found myself hankering for a lot of the things on this list!

Remedies for Memory Loss, Concentration Problems and Forgetfulness

Everyone had days when they didn't feel like they were 'on their game' including you. And as you age, both your bodies and brains grow old as well. Not to mention the effects of hormone imbalances during your perimenopause and menopause phase. But smart food and supplement choices might be just the remedies for memory loss, loss of concentration and forgetfulness in menopause and perimenopause you needed.

Healthy foods and natural supplements are becoming popular as they act towards making better numerous aspects of health and well-being. They are derived from substances that occur naturally and have been consumed in one form or another for centuries. Their effect on body functions proven over time and their ability to encourage better memory are worth investigating.

Here are a couple of natural supplements for the brain and memory that may remedy your memory loss, loss of concentration and forgetfulness in perimenopause and menopause and help you get your thought process back on track:

Fish Oil
Fish oil is a form of supplement which is harvested from the fish bodies and purified through a systematic process. It contains Omega-3 fatty acids that will benefit your overall health. It is associated with treating memory loss, better concentration, and health of the heart. It also helps to prevent the attack of Alzheimer's disease.
Ginko Biloba
Ginkgo Biloba is an extract from the green leaves of the Ginkgo tree. The active ingredients in the extract are the ginkgoflavoneglycos, bilobalide, and terpenelactones including ginkgolides A, B and C. Ginkgo improves blood circulation and oxygen flow to the body and brain. One of its benefits is improving memory retrieval and treating loss of concentration. Thus it may help many women to deal with their memory loss, forgetfulness and loss of concentration during menopause and perimenopause.
Rosemary
People often considered rosemary as just a spice they use when cooking. However, its effects as herbal supplement are surprising. Rosemary helps to keep the brain stimulated and make certain that memory is working correctly. A good working brain will certainly improves memory. There are many available types of supplement that include rosemary thus you're encouraged to check the dosage and strength before taking one.
Green tea and black tea
The potent antioxidant and other ingredients in green tea and black tea are believed to promote healthy blood flow, cure many aliments and improve memory function. Since green tea and black tea do contain caffeine it's important to use it sensibly. When taking moderately, green tea and black tea may be the right remedy for perimenopausal and menopausal women's memory loss, forgetfulness and loss of concentration symptoms.
Ginseng
Ginseng also appears to improve memory function. Ginseng is an herb that improves energy. And many aging people insisted that it has the ability to revitalize. If it has this profound effect on other parts of the body it would seem reasonable that it would work as a booster to the mind and memory.
Caffeine
Caffeine is a stimulant and it works to stimulate not only your hearts but your minds as well. It can give a person the extra boost they need to clear their mind. The caffeine that is found within the coffee, tea or chocolate jolts the brain and the memory can retain more information.

Other natural foods which are great for the brain and may help to reduce symptoms of memory loss, loss of concentration and forgetfulness in menopause and perimenopause include:

Blueberries
Blueberries have been demonstrated to protect the brain from stress, chronic insanity, and Alzheimer's disease. Research has also indicated that diets rich in blueberries significantly increased both the learning ability and motor skills.
Avocados
Avocados though considered a 'fatty fruit', help to promote healthy blood circulation and lowered blood pressure, diminishing the possibility of developing hypertension, which can lead to a stroke.
Deep-water fish
Deep-water fish is abundant in Omega-3 essential fatty acids that are important for healthy brain function. Salmon is a wise, freshwater fish choice.
Nuts and seeds
Nuts and seeds are great sources of vitamin E, an important vitamin required by your brain to avert deteriorating cognitive functions. Cashews, peanuts, walnuts, sunflower and sesame seeds and almonds are all good choices.
Whole-grain breads, brown rice and oatmeal
Whole-grain breads, brown rice and oatmeal reduce the risk for cardiac disease by promoting a healthy heart and improving blood flow. The brain is undoubted to thrive with the excellent oxygen flow and nutrient delivery through the bloodstream. Complex carbohydrates also provide the brain with a persistent flow of glucose that enhances brain function. But avoid simple carbohydrates which are found in junk food. They give the brain a short-lived sugar high that often followed by a crash that causes you feel hungry and tired.
Chocolate
Chocolate is very rich in flavonoids and antioxidants which are full of recognized health benefits.
Some of its benefits include: reduce the risk of heart disease, promote healthy blood flow and blood pressure and boost brainpower. A study found that consumption of milk and dark chocolate will improve impulse control and reaction time. So, a little chocolate in your diet will improve your memory retrieval and concentration.

If you just begin to feel the signs of memory loss, forgetfulness and loss of concentration in perimenopause, menopause and other stages of life, taking a natural supplement and right foods can be the ideal remedy. They often have fewer adverse effects in addition to essential benefits of their memory boosting attributes.

When the natural ways fail to improve your memory and concentration you may consider taking hormones that speed up bodily processes, like the over-the-counter drug DHEA. Recent studies demonstrate that DHEA improves memory, strengthens the immune system, prevents bone loss and may even protect us from diabetes and autoimmune disease. If you're a postmenopausal woman, you may consider DHEA hormone therapy but avoid it if you're not in your menopausal phase yet.

Finally, a better mind and memory for a better life is not an impossible thing. Since there're so many remedies for memory loss, loss of concentration and forgetfulness in menopause and perimenopause you can choose from. Just remember, moderation is the key.

So You Love the Lord?

2010-09-30T23:57:00.000+08:00

I knew it.

But it was as if I didn't know it.

Not until it was pointed out... and I am so grateful that it was pointed out.

‎"And Solomon loved the Lord, walking in the statutes of his father Davd, except that he sacrificed and burned incense at the high places" 2 Kings 3:3

It is possible to love the Lord and still have idols and practice wrong things....! Scary but realistically true!

1 Kings 11:2 talks about how Solomon clung to these things. But in Jeremiah 13:11, the Lord says to cling to HIM. HE says to cling to HIM and not to the idols of our lives.....

More in the next post....

What Can I Say

2010-09-20T10:52:00.002+08:00

Hubby asked Arrow #3 what she'd like for dinner.

Arrow #3 replies fast food.

That meant one of two things - burger or fried chicken.

We settled for the burger joint.
Whilst I must admit it was reasonably tasty, I nonetheless felt guilty for having it. Still, we DID ask for it by offering a choice!

Proud

2010-09-17T00:01:00.003+08:00

It's hard not to be proud of your offspring when people say nice things about them.

It's hard not to be proud of your Arrows when people are touched by their acts.

It's hard not to be proud of your not-so-little-ones when people seek you out to tell you more about what they have done.

To balance it, I remind myself that we are fifth and sixth generation Christians, and it is GRACE.

To counter it, I say truthfully that it is totally God at work because I don't think I had that much time with them.

But yeah, I still get that proud parent feeling.

Any ideas how to overcome that?

Home

2010-09-03T10:25:00.000+08:00

Feeling a little displaced.

Missing something.

Ignoring it at first.

That's easy to do when you're busy rushing from one thing to another, from one place to another.

Now trying to put my finger on it.

I suppose I know what it is really.

I'm not at home. I'm not with my own. I'm wondering if I am missing out.

I'm dislike being away from my Arrow #3. I wonder how she is.

I am itching to hop on the plane. I want to be HOME.

Home is where my heart is. And though I am with Hubby, that clique doesn't work here - I want to be where HE wants me to be.

And right now, it's not here.....

When Someone Hurts

2010-09-01T10:30:00.004+08:00

I find it hardest when someone you care for is going through a difficult time.

The sense of powerlessness is hard to deal with. I am aching and wanting to do something for the person, to alleviate the suffering and pain. My thoughts often go that way, and then hopelessness threatens to overwhelm.

That is when I have to run. Run to my Father God. My Daddy God.

I can tell Him everything. Even when I can't put it into words, He can see into my heart. He knows. He knows better than I know.

The matters of my heart are safe in His hands, in His care. The people I am concerned for are safest when left to Him. The issues I am disturbed about are trivia when I discourse with Him.

He sets things in perspective.

He can turn the tide.

He can calm the anger.

He knows where and when it will begin and end.

He hears.

He understands.

And that is what I am going to do after I sign off here.

Candlelight Dinner

2010-08-23T23:43:00.000+08:00

We went away for a break. I don't mean the family. It was the office staff.

First stop was the gym where we worked out for about an hour.

The next stop was dinner at a lovely restaurant.
After working at the gym, we could tuck into a sumptuous meal.

Now the staff can say that they had a candlelight dinner with the boss! Hahaha!

Growing Up

2010-08-19T08:47:00.003+08:00

You really know they are growing up when they do things like this.

But not just growing up. Growing up WELL is important.

In particular, making right choices.

And most of all, their own faith in the Lord; their own relationship with the Lord.

Thank YOU Lord!

FB Addicts

2010-08-12T20:06:00.000+08:00

Do you know what FB is? Well, if you do, read on....

I am told that you know you are a Facebook (FB!) addict when you have four out of the five listed below. Let's see how you fare!

1. You lose sleep over FB.

This means that you stay up late at night, tired the next day because you are compelled to go on FB. You are neglecting yourself over FB! (I can hear some of you going "Tsk! Tsk!" and "No, not me!")

2. You spend more than an hour a day on FB

Actually, before you stone me, I am told that you only need about 30 minutes maximum a day, and this is NOT my research!

3. You become obsessed with old loves

Old friends. Re-connecting with long lost loved ones. Don't get me wrong. There's nothing wrong with clicking to be "friends" with an old flame. But research show that linking up with old flames aren't necessarily healthy. Certainly an inappropriate remark on an unhappy current relationship on such a public site would be potential explosive and divisive fodder if picked up by a third person who knew one's partner! You can imagine it, right?

4. You prefer FB-ing instead of working!

Now, this might seem obvious, but really, if you are sneaking to go on FB (and your company permit such freedom) then you know you are in trouble - just admit it!

5. The thought of logging off FB leaves you in a cold sweat.

The cold turkey test. Paula Pile, a marriage and family therapit in Greesnboro, North Carolina, has her own quick test: "Try going a day without Facebook. If you find it causes you a lot of stress and anxiety, you really need to get some help," she says. This is when you are ready for SOCIAL MEDIA DETOX!

Not Feeling Well

2010-08-06T22:59:00.000+08:00

Aches.

Bone aches.

Ear aches.

Sore throat.

Not nice.

Feel like curling up in bed.

And staying there all day and night.

That's how Arrow #3 felt a few days ago.

And that's how I feel right now....

Need to have that bitter tea drink!

Simply Delightful

2010-07-30T22:24:00.000+08:00

It was a lovely snatched time with the family. Sometimes it gets so busy that I don't have much time to even enjoy my meal.

This time, however, I managed to. And I enjoyed it too.

This is what I had.
Nasi lemak. Lovely. Presentation was appetizing. And the looks did not disappoint.

The taste was absolutely yummy.

The ambiance was comfortable.

Love visiting this place.

Caught in Motion

2010-07-08T23:18:00.004+08:00

I managed to get it shortened and made smaller.
Here is it.
Enjoy.
I did.

The Evidence

2010-07-04T21:52:00.001+08:00

Did I tell you that my first Arrow had an argument with a post during futsal and lost?

Here's the x-ray of his fractured jaw.
Here's the other - the frontal view.

Needless to say he was in an awful lot of pain.

Until the Lord healed him.

Read more about it at this site.

Memories

2010-06-26T23:51:00.000+08:00

It was a short visit to the store. It was supposed to be a quick nip in, grab what is needed, pay for it and out.

Then when I went to the counter to pay these caught my eye.
Silly, noisy hammers. Tap anyone and it would squeak. Irritating to some, stress releasers to others.

So I bought one for my Arrows when they were studying for their final exam.

They enjoyed it.

Ha!

A Palindrome

2010-06-20T19:04:00.003+08:00

Taken from a friend who sent by email: LISTEN AND READ CAREFULLY.

A palindrome reads the same backwards as forward. This video reads the exact opposite backwards as forward. Not only does it read the opposite, the meaning is the exact opposite.
This is only a 1 minute, 44-second video - and it is brilliant. Make sure that you read as well as listen - forward and backward.

Fathers Day

2010-06-15T18:19:00.001+08:00

Together and Yet Apart

2010-05-28T18:04:00.003+08:00

It's a holiday. I make a conscious decision to cut back and cut down. No activities except what we agree on. It's good just to be quiet together. It's comfortable to be in one another's company.

But now we are in separate worlds - you on your laptop and I am on mine. The headphones are on. The screen grips our vision. We might be less than three feet (1 metre) from each other physically, but mentally and emotionally, we could be worlds apart.

Hence my conclusion -

Laptops / computers are even more anti social than televisions. At least if you are watching the same programme you can comment and discuss the same subject.

Yes, laptops/computers have become my Anti-Social Instrument #1.

Anticipation

2010-05-20T00:18:00.000+08:00

I am almost counting the days.

Almost because if I really started I would probably get all into a tizz.

What am I talking about?

Why, the time when the whole family can get back together again.

At least try to, even though it is for a short while.

Hmmm maybe I SHOULD get the calendar out. I'd have more to post!

Mothers Day

2010-05-10T22:01:00.003+08:00

Like I said before, this family enjoys a laugh.

Arrow #1 posted about being in a relationship a few days ago and drew almost 90 responses. Then for Mother's Day, he indicated that the woman in his life was none other than moi!

Arrow #2, not to be outdone, wrote this. Then he posted it on Facebook and uploaded it to U Tube!
Tune taken from Queen's Bohemian Rhapsody. A short song I wrote for mother's day. :)

Mama just killed a roach
Would never have the guts to do it
If not for all you taught and said

Mama you brought me up
But now I'm in a country far away

Mama, oooh
Didn't mean to make you cry
If I'm not back again in 7 years
Carry on, carry on, and expect some grandchildren

Mama, I love you
Have a blessed mother's day
That's all I have to say

Mama, I know I'm a little late
But it's the thought that counts, thats what they say

Mama, oooh
You're the best mom in the world
And even though I'm starting to grow up
You're still mom, you're still mom.
I would like some more brownies. :D

Waited for This!

2010-05-07T22:11:00.005+08:00

I've had this article for ages but kept forgetting to use it. FINALLY today I remembered!

So here it is, in celebration of mothers....

Accountant
Arbitrator
Art Appreciator
Arrow Polisher
Ambassador for the King of kings
Builder - of a godly generation
Bookkeeper
Bulk buyer
Counselor
Career Consultant
Chauffer
Children's Pastor
Childhood Psychologist
Creative Designer
Customer Service Representative
Coach
Child Development Specialist
Cheer Leader
Dietitian
Disciplinarian
Director of Home Affairs
Encourager
Entrepreneur
Entertainer
Educator
First lady of the Home
Fashion Consultant
Gardener
Hostess
Hygienist
Historian
Hairdresser
Interior Decorator
Investigator
Intercessor
Janitor
Judge
Librarian
Launderer
Mentor
Master Story Teller
Movie Critic
Nurse
Nutritionist
Nurturer
Nation Changer
Professional Baker
Professional Chef
Professional Cleaner
Paediatrician
Purchasing Agent
Photographer
Personal Manager
Protector
Referee
Recreation Director
Repairer of the Breach
Switchboard Operator
Speech Therapist
Sculptor
Security Guard
Seamstress
Social Coordinator
Safety Instructor
Shepherd - shepherding your flock
Teacher
Time Management Expert
Taxi Driver
Visionary
Walking Encyclopaedia

A New Venture

2010-05-01T11:28:00.002+08:00

What makes a grown man who would qualify for a pension soon take up a new venture?

An opportunity.

An opening.

A never-say-retire attitude?

A can-never-ever-retire philosophy?

All of the above?

Haha!

Whatever it is, here it is - the first photo of a cafe that my Hubby opened yesterday! Yummy western food served cafe style.

Located at the 1 Borneo Hypermall in Kota Kinabalu, it's had good food reviews so far. The service needs troubleshooting of course, for a newly opened place.
This photo was taken before the mad lunch rush.

Drop by when you're in the vicinity.

Fun

2010-04-28T22:38:00.002+08:00

It's fun when you can laugh together.

I enjoy that with my children.

Like the time I taught them the best way to get rid of hiccups was by being tickled. We had fun there.... and yes, I still contend that this IS the best way!

Or the time we created fantasy worlds with blankets and cardboard boxes.

How about when we would all jump on the American King Sized bed and have a tickle-wrestle-mummy-always-wins time.

Yeah, it's good to be able to laugh together.

And the latest?

Facebooking across the miles over my second Arrow's birthday, set off by zany posting by Arrow #1

Thank you Lord for the fun!

God Heals

2010-04-18T16:08:00.003+08:00

They couldnt find anything wrong, he said. The pain has reseeded a lot. He is able to do much. Just that he is concerned if he opens his mouth too wide.

I told him not to worry - If God has done the healing, it is total.

And so, yesterday, he told his sister that he is eating pretty much the normal fare!

Praise God!

No Solid Food

2010-04-07T23:51:00.000+08:00

It came totally unexpectedly. An sms in the middle of the day. Not even a warning beforehand. Just the result....
What would YOU do?

Blessing

2010-03-29T15:22:00.005+08:00

It occurred to me that these days, we are increasingly a people who do not know how to bless.

You see, the other day, there was a baby dedication in the Sunday Celebration.

Both parents are godly, gentle, humble people and it was a pleasure to be able to part organize it for them.

But it was the blessing that struck me. The person who gave the blessing is an orator, yes. Known for his ability to preach well and to be able to unpack the Scriptures in a clear and creative manner.

But even this, I think, surpassed his normal standard. It was superlative-laced, God-glorified and servanthood-encouraged. I found myself holding my breath in case I missed a phrase. I wish it was recorded. At the end of it, I found myself thinking, "Wow! What parent would not want that blessing for his/her child".

And that was when I concluded that we have forgotten how to bless. Myself included.

Reverse Order?

2010-03-22T00:04:00.005+08:00

Hubby is such a dear.

We went to Korea last month. Due to the snowy we borrowed some cold weather gear which proved to be the right move.

This month, it has been dry and drier weather. Hot is putting it mildly.

Then we went to a new shopping centre. He managed to find a good bargain (somehow he is a better shopper than I)

We got some cold weather clothes!

Not one, not two, but THREE!

No, we have no plans to go anywhere wintery - yet! He just thought it was a good bargain which might come in useful for later. I hope he is right!

Passion

2010-03-10T23:57:00.000+08:00

When they were young, we encouraged interest in music.

So it was a joy to see them take up the piano and guitar.

It was bliss to worship in music together as a family - Arrow #1 on the piano, Arrow #2 on the guitar, Arrow #3 singing, foster son on keyboard doing drums.

Even now, as they grow older and leave home, the passion for music has not dimmed.

Hence when a popular group performed in Asia recently, Arrow #2 was there.
There is power in music!

Black is Good

2010-03-03T21:59:00.006+08:00

Some friends came over recently. We had sumptuous dinner.

Then it was some cheese and wine.

And then coffee with chocolate. Black chocolate.
Black is good. It means that my daughter can eat it as she doesnt take to milk very well.

What's more, this is Belgian black chocolate. A taste worth staying up till after midnight for....

A Taste of England

2010-02-24T23:42:00.000+08:00

Scones.

With whipped cream.

And a dollop of strawberry jam.

Absolutely wicked.
And these are the digits of the chef who made this scrumptious meal one evening.

The scone was truly reminiscent of England! Thanks E!

This Has Not Been Edited

2010-02-21T22:36:00.004+08:00

I kid you not. This is a real strawberry. It fits into the palm of my hand. It is that big.
It tasted great too. Succulent. Sweet. So much juice. The best strawberry I have ever had.

Found in the fat lady's shop in the outskirts of Seoul, Korea, somewhere....She sold them ever so cheaply too. Hubby, Arrow #3 and I had a feast!

New Ways

2010-02-13T18:30:00.002+08:00

A strange lunar new year.

After more than 20 years, the family is not all together. If I recall right, this would be the first time.

Arrows #1 and #2 are across the South China Sea, interacting with other members of the extended family. We were all together for Christmas, so I suppose that makes up for it. But it's strange nonetheless.

We will all be experiencing something new over the next few days. That would be worthwhile blogging about.

Overall though we are glad that each one seems to have their own personal relationship with the Lord, and making seemingly right decisions. Thank the Lord for that grace and mercy!

Lessons from Mr Balloon

2010-02-03T23:42:00.002+08:00

First he was used as a visual aid to a lesson about integrity, character and how that is far more important than performances.
Then he was taken into the Toddlers' Room.

And that was when near pandemonium happened.

Lesson learned - listen to an experienced mother who has gone in to see her children in a toddlers room with many other toddlers holding enough goodies for her own children but not for the rest.

That's a definite no-no.

Sure enough, he was asked to leave.

And Mr Balloon ended up stuck here instead - on the window blinds....

I wonder how long before he gets taken away.... and who knows? Perhaps another lesson from the whole experience!

Dont Forget Her

2010-02-01T22:57:00.000+08:00

She will push her box of food down the stairs to get the lid off and grab a quick bite.

She will push the vase of flowers over to get to lick the water from there instead of her own bowl.

She will mew and mew at you to get your attention so that you will sympathise and give her grub.

She will rub herself on your ankles to persuade you to take pity and feed her.

Then she will sprawl herself all over. Like this.
Meet Mittens! Hahahaha! The other member of the Chen Clan!

Hair

2010-01-26T22:44:00.002+08:00

It seems to be some sort of statement that young men want to make when they leave home for the first time.

They dont want to cut their hair.

Hubby was like that.

And now my Arrow #1 and Arrow #2 are doing likewise.

I wonder why.... Hahahaha!

Disciplining Children

2010-01-20T17:58:00.002+08:00

Apparently they have decided it is NOT a good thing to keep praising one's children anymore.

It is also NOT a good thing NOT to smack them.

Maybe I am too simple.

But

Don't you think it's about time these researchers just relied on what the Lord's Word says?

What an Evening

2010-01-16T21:58:00.002+08:00

He could barely stop grinning most of the evening. So many tales to tell with so many friends to tell them to.

Here he is, regaling them with another.
And here she is laughing at his version even as others delight in his gift of narration.
What a lot of laughter and fun there was that evening!

There was a wedding going on outside and we were definitely louder than they were when we were not filling our mouths with food!

Just One Photo

2010-01-11T10:28:00.001+08:00

Aiya no time to post.

But here is a site of someone who somehow got a snap off.

I wonder how she got it....

Must find out!

Cant Wait but Have to!

2010-01-06T00:42:00.001+08:00

I have some photos to show but I just dont have the time to post them!

What a blast for my parents' golden wedding anniversary!

What fun!

My jaws hurt after!

Photos must follow... please be patient....

Phew! Free Wifi

2009-12-31T14:44:00.001+08:00

I have been trying to download some videos for the last 24 hours and more. Big files from my brother to show my parents on their golden anniversary dinner because he and his family cant be here .... with no success.

Then we decided to take a drive to the nearby hills. We're on hols here on the other side of the South China Sea.

We decided to take our laptops.

Just as well.

Managed to download all the videos and am happily blogging here for just the price of a cup of coffee. Phew! Now I can work on the presentation for them!

New Old Friends

2009-12-29T23:52:00.002+08:00

One of the nicest things about having had my parents over is this - the making of new friends. And yet not so new...
They found out that there were links, not only because of friendship of their offsprings, but also through other relatives. Then there were also links because they had common topics and had mutual friends and acquaintances. They got on really well!

Eating the Moon

2009-12-23T00:17:00.003+08:00

Did I tell you that my parents are here on holidays with us?

Well, since their arrival, we have taken them to many of our favourite haunts for meals. Honestly, we havent waited for Christmas Day to start stuffing! Our FAVOURITE places! How to control.... sigh....

Along the way, when we stopped off at one such place and guess what. Hubby decided to be adventurous ..... he decided to try to eat the moon!

It was a tantalizing thought. Indeed, an intriguing idea.

But how?

Here's how!
What a vessel-clogging, pressure-rising, cholesterol-peaking sight.

Not to mention the taste!

Behold the stir fried koayteow with moon.

Simpang Mengayau

2009-12-19T00:54:00.003+08:00

What a glorious day it was. After a pleasant drive, we visited the Tip of Borneo, aka Simpang Mengayau.

Seemed the right thing to do with my parents. Did I tell you that my granny was born in Kudat? Well this was a good reason to go and visit!
After this long walk to the top, we walked to the tip and more. My Dad didnt follow to the end, but on the way back, he was scarcely breathless! I am amazed and thank God that we all had a good time!

A Little Scare

2009-12-10T23:16:00.001+08:00

So the results came out a bit weird.

Initial reaction is to ask WHY? How can someone seemingly so fit come out with such skewed results?

Then a mental scramble for answers takes place.

Followed by resolve to find the right answer.

Then only do I recall I have hotline to the One Who is always there.

So I shoot an SOS to the Ancient of Days.

In return, I get peace that passes all understanding.

And so I relax.

And today, that is justified. That is proven correct.

My Arrow IS fit and fine. It was a skewed result, probably because he ingested something prior to the test being done previously.

Lesson learned - shoot SOS out earlier!

Living From a Distance

2009-12-03T23:43:00.002+08:00

What do you do when someone you care for falls ill and you are physically apart?

Does the sense of helplessness overwhelm?

Does the desire to step in and take action rise up?

Does the maternal instinct take over?

Does the paternal instinct rear up?

In my books, the hardest thing to bear is having to watch someone you love suffer and be totally unable to alleviate the suffering.

At that time, a decision has to be made. A stance has to be taken. A belief will be lived out.

But first, the question "Is God in control?" needs to be answered.

Then only can the rest take place.

Christmas Trees

2009-11-28T23:44:00.001+08:00

I know some people dont think too highly of Christmas trees. But when my firstborn came along, I made the decision to have a tree and have done so every year since. It has become somewhat like a tradition for Christmas, which some people would say is pagan.

I think that it is more making memories as a family. We make it clear that Christmas is not about the trees and decorations and gifts, even though we do do gift exchanges. We explain what Christmas is all about, and by now, the children know already.

But a tree? Lights? Decorations? That is our family memory-making moment of the year.

For more tips on how to decorate a tree, go to EADotCom.

It is Done

2009-11-28T00:25:00.001+08:00

The pictures speak for themselves.
I had mine done at around the same age. Old enough to be able to care for them by myself. In my time, it was done by hand and a needle. I will spare you the gory details here. Now they use a gun that is like a stapler.
And presto! All done =)
Simple, nice, and two weeks ago. She swam yesterday.

The Q & A of Cough

2009-11-26T23:57:00.001+08:00

Questions and Answer? Sure of course you know about things like that.

But wait - the Q & A of Cough?

No?

Well, go check out a few spots.

Here's Setting the Example

And here's the Q & A of Cough.

Have fun - like I did.

JOCHEBED

2009-11-25T07:16:00.001+08:00

I was chatting with some friends last night.

Suddenly I remembered this woman - Jochebed.

And how I prayed to be like her.

May my prayer come true.

And may you discover her too.

Underwater Answered Prayer

2009-11-23T00:05:00.003+08:00

Prayer works.

You know that, I know that.

But when your offspring tells you that, it's cool.

Arrow #1 came home late tonight. He was out for surprise birthday party for a friend. It was at the beach and they had repeatedly thrown the friend into the sea. Of course they had taken her handphone away first to make sure it wasnt spoilt by the sea water. After she came out of the water, they then threw flour and eggs at her. Yes, that sort of party. After she got cleaned up, they let her be for a while and then , yes, they threw more flour and eggs at her.

All in all, a fun time....

Until they had to go home.

That's when they discovered the birthday girl's car keys missing.

Yes, it was probably in the water.

Can you imagine trying to find that a few hours later?

Well, try they did. They had no choice. So everyone panned out and searched. And searched.

Arrow #1 was obviously in the search party. A nice evening would have ended on a low if the key wasnt found.

After some time, he decided to pray. He stood at one spot for some time and prayer. He felt and searched the sand below him with his feet. Then he felt with his hands. He went through the sand a few times, sweeping from side to side. Normally, he'd just sweep through once and move to another spot. This time, he stood so long in one place, even another person noticed.

That's when he found it.

Yes, prayer works. He came home to testify.

Praise God

Comparisons

2009-11-22T01:21:00.002+08:00

They were visiting. Just a few hours.

Conversation turned to the children of course.

Wow. Theirs seem to get the right scholarships and jobs all the time. Especially those which are hard to get.

Wow. Even children have to be "special" - twins.

"O tell me about your children," she says. Hmmmm

Ten years ago, I would have felt uncomfortable with such people. I would not have given them much of my time. I would have felt it a waste of my time.

Today, I felt cool, calm and collected.

And I shared. I gave testimonies of how God is so good. How God is so awesome. How God is so caring.

I told of how God leads and cares for us.

And left the rest to the Holy Spirit to do.

Compared to a decade ago, I have changed.

Tired? Who Me?

2009-11-17T23:58:00.001+08:00

I was sitting there minding my own business. Then a family came by. The mother stared at me and insisted I was tired. Very tired she said.

But frankly, as I said in reply, my spirit was alert and alive. I was not feeling tired at all.

Then later I realised that

1. my matted hair really should have been washed yesterday
2. my stuffy nose left me puffy bags under my eyes
3. my mascara had probably left streaks of black under my eyes

That, my friend, is the best way to create the optical illusion of being tired.

Though I must say that I was grateful for the caring Mother!

Perfect End to the Day

2009-11-09T18:51:00.005+08:00

After a great time of fellowship over dinner, we adjourned to the house - young folks from the university and some adults.

There, we indulged in further fellowship.... and more.

Here, folks, is Big Mmmmommmma's indulgence.

It's a great way to end the day. Fellowship and Fei-low-ship.

Gout Giver

2009-11-05T21:12:00.002+08:00

I know, I know, I shouldn't.

But in one day alone, I did.

This was my morning fare. Pork innards noodles. Honestly, it was worth the drive all the way to the other side of town near the beach. Initially we worried if there were any seats available! There were none the last time we went. We meaning Hubby and I of course.

When we got there, voila, just one table left - just for us.

Needless to say we enjoyed this meal immensely!
Then in the afternoon, the children asked to go out for lunch together. So I suggested another place. This time, where my favourite beef innards noodle dish is served.

This dish, where the noodles are covered with a dark sauce, is one of my favourite morning meals. I like the innards more than the dry, stringy meat. There's something about the soft texture sliding about on my tongue, with the delicious sauce coating it.... hmmmm
Specially arranged that bit of intestine to show it off!

Yeah, this is Big Mmmmommmma's glorious grub moment.

Lessons from Grandma's Hands

2009-10-31T23:49:00.003+08:00

This was emailed to me. Just had to share it here, the Big Mmmmommma site...Grandma, some ninety plus years, sat feebly on the patio bench. She didn't move, just sat with her head down staring at her hands.

When I sat down beside her she didn't acknowledge my presence and the longer I sat I wondered if she was OK.

Finally, not really wanting to disturb her but wanting to check on her at the same time, I asked her if she was OK. She raised her head and looked at me and smiled. 'Yes, I'm fine, thank you for asking,' she said in a clear strong voice.

'I didn't mean to disturb you, grandma, but you were just sitting here staring at your hands and I wanted to make sure you were OK,' I explained to her.

'Have you ever looked at your hands,' she asked. 'I mean really looked at your hands?'

I slowly opened my hands and stared down at them. I turned them over, palms up and then palms down. No, I guess I had never really looked at my hands as I tried to figure out the point she was making.

Grandma smiled and related this story:

'Stop and think for a moment about the hands you have, how they have served you well throughout your years. These hands, though wrinkled shriveled and weak have been the tools I have used all my life to reach out and grab and embrace life.

'They braced and caught my fall when as a toddler I crashed upon the floor.

They put food in my mouth and clothes on my back. As a child, my mother taught me to fold them in prayer. They tied my shoes and pulled on my boots. They held my husband and wiped my tears when he went off to war.

'They have been dirty, scraped and raw, swollen and bent. They were uneasy and clumsy when I tried to hold my newborn son. Decorated with my wedding band they showed the world that I was married and loved someone special

They wrote my letters to him and trembled and shook when I buried my parents and spouse.

'They have held my children and grandchildren, consoled neighbors, and shook in fists of anger when I didn't understand.

They have covered my face, combed my hair, and washed and cleansed the rest of my body. They have been sticky and wet, bent and broken, dried and raw. And to this day when not much of anything else of me works real well these hands hold me up, lay me down, and again continue to fold in prayer.

'These hands are the mark of where I've been and the ruggedness of life.

But more importantly it will be these hands that God will reach out and take when he leads me home. And with my hands He will lift me to His side and there I will use these hands to touch the face of God.'

I will never look at my hands the same again. But I remember God reached out and took my grandma's hands and led her home. When my hands are hurt or sore or when I stroke the face of my children and husband I think of grandma. I know she has been stroked and caressed and held by the hands of God.

I, too, want to touch the face of God and feel His hands upon my face.

The PUB

2009-10-30T21:44:00.003+08:00

TRUST - a crucial factor in all good relationships. When trust is lost, the relationship is broken.

A story is told of telephone operator who one day received a phone call.

She answered, 'Public Utilities Board.'

She was met with silence on the other end of the line.

Sensing that there was someone there, she spoke again, but this time, said 'P.UB.'

Still the silence.

Then just as she was about to hang up, she heard a lady's voice speaking faintly, "Oh, so this is PUB."

The lady went on to explain, "Sorry, I got this number from my husband's shirt pocket. And errr... I did not know whose number it was."

I wonder what would be the outcome for this couple had the female telephone operator answered with just 'hello' instead of 'PUB'?

Auf Weidersehen

2009-10-18T22:25:00.002+08:00

Auf Wiedersehen (German pronunciation: [aʊfˈviːdəʁzeː(ə)n]) is German for "goodbye". The phrase more literally translates as "when we see again" or "until we see again".

That's the phrase my second Arrow learned while with us. He came back for his semester break having lost some weight. It is hard as a mother to see his already thin frame look even more thin and frail. Have been trying to put back some meat on him and I think we have succeeded to some extent.

Why German? He's going to take the language as part of his studies. Hopefully he will continue to do well and get selected to go to Germany for part of his course.

His course. Today he flew to go back and continue it. He probably wont be back end of this year for Christmas. We probably wont see him over Chinese New Year either.

And I didnt get to see him off at the airport. It was hard to worship in song this morning.....

Passion

2009-10-14T23:26:00.001+08:00

This grows wild in our garden and just outside our fence! It's passion fruit! A yellow version.
Here is a friend eating it as is. Too strong for me though. I prefer it made into a juice with some bananas and a few cubes of ice. Yum!

Naughty but Nice

2009-10-05T22:33:00.002+08:00

The other day Hubby and I suddenly fancied this dish. Can you see it? Dripping with the fried fat pieces, the sauce is sticky and thick and tasty. The noodles are thick, and covered with this dark sauce. Priceless.
Amazingly, this dish though simple, is actually difficult to recreate well.

My favourite part? The cabbage. Yum!

Good Food Good Fun

2009-10-03T00:03:00.002+08:00

I nearly didn't want to go. For the dinner I mean. I was tired and a little low in spirit. I didn't want to spoil the fun.

But as six o'clock approached, I felt a second wind. So I agreed to go.

And I am so glad that I did!

The food was really nice. For more, visit here.
But the conversation around the table was wonderful.

The laughter continued to our house where we chatted like old friends over a hot drink.

There's something about the fellowship of the saints.

Teaching the Child

2009-10-01T14:11:00.002+08:00

Excerpt from: The Heart of a Teacher
by Paula Fox

The child arrives like a mystery box...
with puzzle pieces inside
some of the pieces are broken or missing...
and others just seem to hide

But the HEART of a teacher can sort them out...
and help the child to see
the potential for greatness he has within...
a picture of what he can be

Her goal isn't just to teach knowledge...
by filling the box with more parts
it's putting the pieces together...
and creating a work of art

The process is painfully slow at times...
some need more help than others
each child is a work in progress...
with assorted shapes and colors

First she creates a classroom...
where the child can feel safe in school
where he never feels threatened or afraid to try...
and kindness is always the rule

She knows that a child
can achieve much more
when he feels secure inside
when he's valued and loved...
and believes in himself
...and he has a sense of pride

She models and teaches good character...
and respect for one another
how to focus on strengths...not weaknesses
and how to encourage each other

She gives the child the freedom he needs...
to make choices on his own
so he learns to become more responsible...
and is able to stand alone

He's taught to be strong and think for himself...
as his soul and spirit heal
and the puzzle that's taking shape inside...
has a much more positive feel

The child discovers the joy that comes...
from learning something new...
and his vision grows as he begins
to see all the things that he can do

A picture is formed as more pieces fit...
an image of the child within
with greater strength and confidence...
and a belief that he can win!

All because a hero was there...
in the HEART of a teacher who cared
enabling the child to become much more...
than he ever imagined...or dared

A teacher with a HEART for her children...
knows what teaching is all about
she may not have all the answers...
but on this...she has no doubt

When asked which subjects she loved to teach,
she answered this way and smiled...
"It's not the subjects that matter...
It's all about teaching the CHILD."

The Value of a Person

2009-09-28T21:34:00.003+08:00

We have always said that we would not compare one offspring with another.

That's hard to do. But we try. We try to say that each one is as valuable as the other, no matter how alike or how different. That is not to say that we do not encourage improvement or aspiration of better and higher goals. It's just that we try to put one next to the other with pointing fingers.

So when one child does better than another academically or in sports or some other field, we try very hard not to say, "See what so-and-so has done? Learn from him/her" We try to exercise restrain, we try to exhibit total acceptance and love.

But

When one is particularly outstanding, it is even harder still to bite one's tongue

Because you DO want the others to learn....

Any suggestions? Thoughts? Opinions?

Packing a Punch

2009-09-19T23:37:00.003+08:00

Man years ago, when in England, I went for a friend's birthday party. My housemates and I walked there and by the time I got there, I was pretty thirsty. So I grabbed a drink. It was the first time I tried this drink named Punch. It was very nice. So after I'd gulped it down, I asked for a second glass.

What I didn't know was that there was alcohol in the mixed drink.

Worse, in between the two drinks, another so-called friend had slipped in with more additives - the tasteless spirit called vodka.

Put that together with an empty stomach, you can imagine what happened next.

I vaguely remember walking home, trying to walk on the pavement and missing. Thank God for good friends.

But it didn't end there.

The next day I was rostered to go to work on the afternoon shift. I must have looked a right mess because when I got there, the ward sister (I was a student then) took one look at me and sent me to the Accident and Emergency Department to get treatment. She was convinced that I had measles!

There, once the truth was known, I was given anti-histamine and THREE DAYS leave by the doctors and nurses who made their sentiments known about this naive Asian girl!

Folks, I found I was allergic to the stuff. A good reason to be teetotal!

Gifted

2009-09-07T09:56:00.002+08:00

With a kiddo like this, you could earn lots!

Haha!

Creativity

2009-08-30T17:41:00.005+08:00

Moms have to be lots of things.

Nurse. Driver. Cook. Cleaner. You name it. Amazing how many attributes can be ascribed to women!

Including being creative.

Recently while visiting a friend, I saw her packing little gifts for her daughter to give to the teachers in Teachers' Day. That brought back memories!

Of course as they grew older, the novelty wore off. But initially, it was good to make the effort indeed! In the meantime, it was just fun to watch my friend do her bit. Perhaps she will recemember and bless us too!

Change.... Not

2009-08-18T18:46:00.004+08:00

I was supposed to make a change. Whilst one thinks it's stable and nice, another thinks it boring to always stay the same.

I sometimes (read often) think the latter.

So it was with lipsticks No, no bright red stuff for me. A bit of shine is fine. But not red, and certainly not lashings of it. After all, I needed to set an example for my little one!

But a change was needed.

So I decided to do it. I didn't want to be a dowdy old mom!

Read more about my exploits here

Making Decisions

2009-08-17T00:34:00.003+08:00

It used to be simple ones - which colour crayon to use to paint the trees, sky and faces.

Then it moved to where would you like to have dinner.

What was the reason for choosing this shirt over that one?

Along the way, choices of friends came in too.

What about the barber or hair dresser? Which should you go to?

Then came the big step of deciding further studies. I thought that was pretty major.

Later came the natural next step - where to stay. Amazing how things got settled about this.

Then came the seemingly sudden revelation - you decided to move out of the present place to go somewhere else. You wanted our blessings on this.

After discussion and prayer, we decided to let you decide.

And you did.

The field of making decisions suddenly got bigger.

There will come a time when such decisions need not go through us.

Wow. Time flies.

Lactose Intolerance

2009-08-14T17:54:00.005+08:00

OK I have found a new thing.

Apparently being allergic to milk is very different from being lactose intolerance.

She might be more lactose intolerance - not allergic.

I have to study this more.

People sometimes confuse lactose intolerance with cow milk allergy. Milk allergy is a reaction by the body’s immune system to one or more milk proteins and can be life threatening when just a small amount of milk or milk product is consumed. Milk allergy most commonly appears in the first year of life, while lactose intolerance occurs more often in adulthood.

Problem Solving

2009-08-10T22:41:00.003+08:00

For some time now we had been perplexed. Frequent stuffy nose episodes, terrible debilitating headaches, heavy head days. It was mind-boggling. We couldn't understand what the problem was. We even wondered if there were other problems we hadn't thought about. You know, problems with school perhaps. Or relationships that were not helpful. Maybe it was psychosomatic you know. How about her spectacles? Did they need changing?

And so it went on.

For months.

In the end, it was God's inspiration.

Spelt D-I-A-R-Y.

Yup, she is allergic to dairy products.

She's been off it for a while and she is fine.
Then one day I got another phone call from school - another headache. She was almost in tears from the pain. She could barely focus.

Later when she had recovered, she thought back and found the culprit. It was a new dish that the school canteen was serving. She tried it and discovered cheese in it.

The rest, as they say, is history....

Praise God!

Something

2009-08-07T22:12:00.002+08:00

There is something about going for a prayer meeting with your own child because he/she wants to go.

There is something about being able to hold hands in public with a praying child who is of your own.

There is something about agreeing in prayer with someone praying fervently who is your child.

There is something about knowing that your child is storming the spiritual realm over the same matters that you are.

Whilst humbling,

it also feels good.

Dairy Products

2009-07-31T00:33:00.002+08:00

She stopped dairy products. It was a trial.

She loves cheese. It is going to be hard.

She is desperate to try. It is a test of wills now.

She succumbs and grabs a piece of cheese. In it goes, her mouth channeling it to where it is need most.

Tomorrow the allergy will show.

But tomorrow is another day

Allergy Suspect

2009-07-24T23:05:00.000+08:00

I suspect an allergy.

Sniffy nose. Congestion in the upper respiratory track. Coughing on and off.

Surprisingly, all ceased when I banned milk and dairy products from the diet.

What do you think?

Bullying

2009-07-22T22:38:00.002+08:00

"You can never fight their fights."

"Let them learn by themselves."

We have not only heard those words before; we have used them ourselves.

But what happens when the child is being bullied?

And the child has been taught not to fight back?

And despite pleas with the teacher, nothing effective is done?

Do you take things in your hands and go to see the teacher?

What would YOU do?

From Me to You....

2009-07-18T19:06:00.001+08:00

Though not what it meant originally,
this is pretty much what I told my Hubby.

Saving Yourself, Saving Others

2009-07-13T22:31:00.002+08:00

Many years ago, when my own father was a lad, his friends threw him into a disused mining pool. They weren't being malicious. Just playful.

He had told them that he didn't know how to swim.

In typical exuberance of youth, they didn't believe him.

And decided to test their theory using one of the then many pools in my home town.

Alas, if you knew my dad, you would know he doesn't tell lies. Especially on matters such as this.

He nearly drowned.

We are so glad he didn't. Otherwise I wouldn't be here today.

Years later after that, my own sister nearly drowned.

I still remember the day. My cousins were in town. We all went for a dip at the local pool. I barely knew how to swim then, but as the oldest, I felt responsible nonetheless.

At one point, I suddenly missed my sister's bright lemon yellow swimsuit. Looking around, I could not see her at her usual spot near the steps. So I went up to the adults to see if she had got up without letting me know. Six years separated us. She was only a toddler then.

When I got to the adults and asked if she had come out of the water, they all said, "Noooo". Then I saw my dad move. Like never before. I knew he could move fast - he could outrun men younger than he.

He got up super quick and made a beeline to the pool. Without missing a beat, he VAULTED over the fence, plunging in feet first! As a trained lifesaver (following his bad experience), he knew time was of essence.

There was my sister, head bobbing above water. Paddling away with her hands and feet, almost vertical. She had been knocked off from the steps by a rogue wave.

And the lifesaver on duty thought that she was a particularly clever girl who knew how to swim... and left her to it.

Subsequently, I learned to swim well, as did all my siblings. We all represented the state.

I went on to take up life saving and got my distinction award.

My children learn to swim too.

Better safe than sorry.

Different Strokes

2009-07-09T08:20:00.003+08:00

It is as if God used a different paint brush each time He worked on one of my children. They might look similar, talk the same lingo, and even sound alike. But their personalities? More different than chalk and cheese.

It makes it interesting to care for them. Communication is diverse too. One has to be rather creative. What works for one doesn't always work for the other.

And yet, one has to be fair and not seen to take sides or favour one over the others.

I believe this is training more for the parents than for the children.

Someone one said that there are no bad children. Only bad parents.

I agree.

Sign of the Times

2009-07-06T17:03:00.003+08:00

When my sons laugh, they just chuckle. Sometimes if it is really funny, they laugh out loud, with broad "Hahaha"'s.

My daughter, when she laughs, she announces that she is laughing by saying, "LOL". No, she doesnt spell it out. She just goes, "lol" as in "poll".

For the uninitiated, that is short for "Laughing Out Loud" in chat and sms talk.

LOL....!

Sweat!

2009-07-05T14:46:00.004+08:00

It was supposed to be well organized and smooth sailing. He was scheduled to go back for his studies. I baked lots of cupcakes for him to take back. I even packed them in his check-in suitcase for him.

Then last night he came to me and asked for his passport.

What????

I never laid eyes on it since the last time I passed it to him month ago!

Needless to say, that sparked off hours of searching. Involved Hubby who was away facilitating at a retreat.

Hubby searched his things. I searched mine. He even went to his office, (taking time out from the retreat). So did I.

I searched at home till after 1am this morn. Finally told him to go to sleep and so did I.

Nothing turned up.

But I left his packed bag in the middle of the passageway. I refused to give up!

This morn, I had to go for Sunday service, and work. I left the two guys to continue their search.

Then just as the message began, the sms came. "Found it!" it said. Praise God! I then called my son to tell him where the lock for the bag would be.

Later I rushed from work to the airport to send him off, giving him a hug.

I should hug my other son too - for finding the passport and for sending him there. Phew!

Just Being a Mom

2009-07-04T08:16:00.003+08:00

Spent yesterday night and will spend tonight baking.

Orange cupcakes yesterday.

Brownies today.

I don't have "free time" since my maid went on emergency leave. But I have to MAKE time.

Why?

Because my son, who is back for mid-term break, is going back to studies tomorrow. I've promised to give him some goodies to take back. Both for himself and to pass out to people such as his aunt and family, his mentor, his flatmates and whoever else he fancies. Last but not least, he can freeze the balance for himself.

Photos coming up next... IF I have the time!

Hungry

2009-06-30T23:56:00.002+08:00

I dont know about you, but this makes me feel hungry.

Taken at garden barbeque in England.

Our Anniversary

2009-06-27T23:10:00.004+08:00

It was a casual remark - telling an old friend that it was our wedding anniversary.

"Where are you going for dinner?" asked the friend.

"Oh," I replied, a little embarrassed because we hadn't discussed dinner plans due to our busy schedules of late, "probably eat at home." Grin in a silly way. "We haven't got a maid," I add. As if that was a good reason to eat at home! (Actually rather illogical, I know)

Friend shakes head and mutters something like, "Amazing". I continue in flustered tones because I don't want it to seem that we aren't a loving couple, that our anniversary isn't important, etc, "We just came back from England. That's good enough!"

End of conversation.

Or so I thought.

Later, I met this friend again.

A surprise was sprung. Suddenly before me was an envelope. It contained a dinner voucher for a lovely Italian Restaurant downtown. It had to be just obtained. Specially obtained.

"Have a good dinner, enjoy yourselves. You deserve it".

Wow.

So we went.
Upon arrival, the Captain came over to our table and asked for our voucher. How did he know? He mentioned our friend's name. As I suspected, the voucher was obtained a few hours earlier upon learning of our special day. It made the evening more special as we gave thanks for good friends.

This is what I ordered - roast lamb with apple sauce. It was absolutely delicious.
This is what my husband of twenty-seven years had - roast beef with a lovely sauce and side dishes.Good food with good company, thanks to good friends. A memorable evening indeed.

P.S. It was our anniversary, but because we very rarely have dinner together as a family in this nice restaurant, we brought the children along! It was also an opportunity for them to experience the generosity of friends, and as my eldest said, "Giving of vouchers is an excellent idea" Hence they learn from example and observation.

Eating Well

2009-06-26T21:53:00.002+08:00

All parents want their children to eat well. But eating well is one thing. Eating healthily is another.

When in England, I somehow managed to put on weight. Our food was not exceptionally rich. Perhaps it was the sheer volume as I ate more than usual, eager to taste flavours my tastebuds had forgotten.

One lunch, however, we had typical simple fare.

Cheese - cheddar of course - sliced just so.
With a touch of tomatoes. Victoria tomatoes that come with their stalks. You are see the freshness. Of course, our hosts bought British!
And then we had lovely salad - washed and ready to eat. Fancy that! Just open the packet and tuck in.
Which is what we did.

And it tasty yummy!

Wisdom

2009-06-23T10:05:00.000+08:00

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